Closet smokers exist for two reasons and for two reasons only. The first rationale for this peculiar group is that they have made promises to others that they have quit smoking when in fact they have not. In other words, they are being blatantly dishonest about their inability to quit smoking. Some may lie about their cessation to prevent the mother from worrying, and they probably perceive this as an acceptable reason for not being sincere. Another defense to smoking in the closet is so that the bad habit does not spread to the children in the family. Perhaps another just reason for the deception!
The second reason closet smokers exist is fear. Perhaps afraid that a parent will hit the ceiling if he finds out, or a spouse who has lost a family member to smoking might be disgusted by the disrespect and insensitivity of the other half, much less stupidity. of smoking.
Whether you’re a closet smoker out of worry or fear, it’s certainly no fun to secretly smoke! Adults should be able to make ‘legal’ decisions with ease and not have to justify their actions to anyone, especially when they are not breaking any laws. All this worry about what other people will think or do, if they found out, is often based on self-centered worry.
If the smoker in the closet looks a little deeper at his actions, he will soon realize that his secret smoking habit is not really due to concern or respect for others, but simply to himself and his own negative image. of himself. Pleasing people is a character flaw that prevents people from being true to themselves while portraying a false personality to those around them. It is unnatural and unhealthy!
Closet smokers do nothing to prevent new smokers!
It is a mistake for a smoker to think that secret smoking helps prevent future generations from starting the habit. Children will be exposed to smokers all the time, wherever they go. If they are going to smoke, there is little that parents can do to stop them. Adolescents are much more likely to be influenced by their peers than by their parents.
Not lighting up around non-smokers out of respect, and to reduce your exposure to passive smoking, is very different from smoking in the shadows. Most of the people in the world probably have more pressing things to worry about than the smoking habits of others, no matter how close they are to the secret smoker.
Closet smokers are The only ones who care about their secret!
One of my sisters had been secretly smoking 30 cigarettes a day for almost 8 long years. She always used to cast the evil eye on me when we all gathered at the parents’ house for a family reunion. “It’s OK for you!” she would grunt “You can have a cigarette anytime you want, but I have to sit here gasping!” But the bottom line was that he didn’t have to gasp at all! It was she who decided to keep her smoking a secret from people. But it gets better, as you will see in the remaining paragraphs!
Our younger brother’s wedding day had finally arrived. My sister, a chain smoker, told me the morning of the wedding; “I’m sick of this whole secret! If that woman (referring to our mother) thinks for a minute that I’m going to go all day without a cigarette because of her, then she can think again! This afternoon I’ve been smoking for years, and if you don’t like it, it’s your problem! “
As soon as we reached the reception room, sure enough, my dear sister, red-faced and ready for a fight, approached our mother and moved her finger an inch away from her face and screamed;
“I have something to tell you! I have been smoking for 8 years in secret and I am not willing to take any more, not for you, not for dad, not for anyone! And another thing, today I am going to smoke at this wedding, and if not you like it, how rude! “
Well at least it was certainly entertainment for those who were able to witness this emotional outburst. However, the response was not what my sister expected. My mother calmly replied saying:
“Didn’t I know you smoked my dear? I’d rather you didn’t, of course, but you’re a grown woman now and more than capable of making your own decisions. I’m sorry you thought you should.” Hide me Anyway, can we go ahead and enjoy this wedding? After all, it’s your brother’s day, not ours. Let’s not stop focusing on him and his girlfriend. “
The moral of this story is this: smokers should stop thinking that everyone doesn’t give a damn about their habit, because they really don’t! Sure, the world would be a better place without tobacco and all the health problems it causes, but keeping secrets is like telling lies. It’s certainly a dishonest way of life, so why not master yourself, expose your superficial secret, and move on with your life? You’ll feel so much better, honest!