We all get angry sometimes. Sometimes it may seem justified or we convince ourselves that we have the right to be angry. Whatever the reason and if you experience passive or aggressive anger, read the 10 tips on anger, which can give you different points of view:
Tip No. # 1: your anger is yours
If you are experiencing it, it is yours. It may have been triggered by an external stimulus, but it is still yours.
Tip No. # 2: blaming and projecting won’t change your experience
We are often tempted to blame someone for our anger experience or project it onto someone close to us. Guess what: the emotion is still in you and once you get over it, ask yourself: does hurting your loved ones really help by projecting your anger onto them? They deserve it?
Tip # 3: Ask yourself: What is the real cause behind the trigger?
What apparently “pissed you off” is rarely the real cause. What is it really about? Ask yourself questions like: Don’t you like being controlled or not having control over someone or a situation? You don’t like injustice because it reminds you of someone or something from your past?
Tip No. # 4: reflect on your passive-aggressive strategies
Did you know that, for example, psychological manipulation, reserved behavior, and avoidance are forms of passive anger? What are you avoiding by using those strategies? Write down what you would have to feel, do, or say if you couldn’t use these strategies.
Tip No. # 5: reflect on your aggressive anger strategies
Did you know that, for example, unfair blame, including self-blame, selfishness, harm, and threats are all forms of aggressive anger? What are you avoiding by using those strategies? Write down what you would have to feel, do, or say if you couldn’t use these strategies.
Tip No. # 6: use healthy anger wisely
If you experience anger in a situation of perceived threat and it allows you to influence it, using the power of emotion, to keep yourself and your loved ones safe, it is usually a good thing. You will notice that if you experience ‘clean anger’, without any past reference, it will quickly dissipate (relative to the needs of the situation) and make it clear to you.
Tip No. 7: take some time
When you experience anger, your heart rate will increase, deactivating your creative thinking brain. That’s when you notice that you can no longer think logically. Make it a rule to take time to calm down before trying to resolve the situation.
Tip No. # 8: use anger management strategies that work for you
Find something that works for you: going for a run, exercising, hitting a pillow, screaming into a pillow, gardening, etc. Use whatever works for you to calm yourself down and bring your heart rate down to its normal rest. heart rate.
Tip No. # 9: take responsibility
We all get angry sometimes. What matters most is how we deal with it in the moment and what we do to take responsibility after the event. If you have children, this is how you will teach them to deal with anger. Think about what kind of role model you would like to be.
Tip No. # 10: deal with anger mentioned in the past
A good indication that anger refers to unresolved emotions or past life experiences is when the anger or justifications for anger persist for an extended period. This is your invitation to resolve and heal all that has remained unsolved.