If you’ve never had a chance to see Tyler Perry’s movie, “Diary of a Crazy Black Woman,” I suggest you check it out. It’s a fun movie that contains some pretty unfortunate truths about marriage and relationships. Are you angry with your husband or with your husband?
The simple definition of crazy is crazy. Yes, marriage can and does drive some women to the point of insanity. Very often, the word crazy is used to reflect anger. For example, a wife might say that she is angry at her husband for staying out too late. The truth is, you are most likely angry or disappointed in your husband rather than angry.
So perhaps a better title for this article is Diary of an Angry Married Woman. Here is an excerpt from the diary;
Dear Diary,
“Today is another day of mixed emotions and disappointment with my husband and our marriage. I don’t know why I still believe that tomorrow or the next day or next week will be different. It’s like taking one step forward and two steps back.
I don’t know how long I can live like this. He makes promises to be different, but breaks them shortly after making them. He asked me to be patient while he changed, but he’s been doing it for years. Sometimes I want to throw him and his belongings in the trash.
How am I supposed to stay in marriage when I’m the only one trying to make things better? You have no idea how close I am to filing for divorce. Many times I wish I could move out and let him come home and read my goodbye letter.
There are many other fish in the sea and if you don’t start treating me better, I will find someone else who appreciates me for who I am and not what I can do for them.
I wish I had something good to write today, but I’m afraid there is nothing good in my marriage today. Nor do I expect anything good to write about tomorrow.
Thanks for listening to the diary. At least I have someone to express my thoughts and feelings to. Good night! “
Are those words and feelings that you can relate to? You are not alone.
So in the movie there is no question that the wife struggles to control her emotions. Unfortunately, it is more difficult in real life.
If your husband is driving you crazy or should I say crazy, you must find a way to expel the madness before it drives you crazy. No marriage is perfect and yours never will be. However, that doesn’t mean you have to accept mediocrity.
As simplistic as it may sound, don’t let anger and frustration outweigh love and patience. You really are one step away from changing your marriage.