One of the popular uses of BaZi Analysis is compatibility analysis. Now, compatibility analysis is not just about compatibility between two people who want to get married, although that is the predominant type of analysis that most people tend to be interested in. The compatibility analysis can also be extended to business partners and employees. However, since most people are interested in variety of relationship compatibility, that is what I will discuss today.
There’s a lot to write about compatibility, but I’ll stick to a brief overview and focus on the example we have today.
First we need to understand what is the meaning of the word ‘compatibility’. Compatibility in BaZi does not mean attraction, rather it means that you have a connection with each other. On a basic level, they ‘get along’. This variety of compatibility is quite different from the Western concept of ‘The One’ or soul mate that many people are familiar with when it comes to romantic relationships. In BaZi, many people can be ‘The One’, so the focus in BaZi is not WHO this person is, but rather what qualities this person has, so that they can ‘choose’ when they arrive on the scene, so to speak. .
Of course, in BaZi, there are also pull factors, elements in a person that draw us to them. But attraction isn’t the only reason you settle down with someone or something to spend the rest of your life with someone. Attraction factors explain why we are attracted to someone, while compatibility indicates whether or not we can have a long-term relationship with someone. When it comes to relationships, attraction and compatibility must be considered alongside the general question of whether or not the person is suitable for a long-term relationship or marriage. Sometimes some people just aren’t the type to get married or they just aren’t in the right frame of mind, or at the time in their life that they should be getting married. These are all considerations that come into play when a BaZi consultant is looking at a compatibility analysis between two people and is asked about the topic of romantic compatibility.
When two people meet…
Let’s take a look at this couple’s BaZi and see how BaZi can be used to determine compatibility. The lady is a day teacher from Jia Wood and the man is a day teacher from Ren Water. When looking at a relationship, we must remember that in BaZi, compatibility and attraction are not always the same. Now why is this Jia Wood lady attracted to this guy from Ren Water?
One way to understand why a person is attracted to another person is to literally understand what is on their mind. What is the wavelength, so to speak, and to what kind of signals are they receptive? The biggest influence on anyone’s BaZi chart is the month of birth, known as Ti Gong or Yue Ling. The element that dominates the month of birth determines many things about the person: his basic nature, his innate character, his likes, his dislikes and, most importantly, dictates his attitude towards life and what matters most to him.
Now, if there is a favorable element in the month, that indicates that you will be attracted to the “right” people, so to speak. But if the element is not a favorable element, then the attraction is not positive. What do we mean by positive attraction? It means that the relationship is favorable and that the person you are attracted to is a positive influence, or whose presence in your life brings positive benefits.
Now, let’s take a look at our Jia Wood Lady. She is born in the month of Hai (Pig). Hai (Pig) is part of the Winter season, when Water is very strong. So, Water attracts her, particularly Ren Water, which is the type of Water that is the Hidden Stem within Hai (Pig). And which Day Master is her partner? Ren Water.
Of course, one cannot simply extrapolate that because someone is attracted to Ren Water Day Masters, whatever Ren Water is attractive to this Jia Wood Lady. It’s not as simple as that – there’s more to the magic of attraction than just having an item in mind. Jia Wood Lady’s letter is cold, as Wood was born in winter. So what this graphic needs is some fire, to help heat it up and bring it to life.
Her attraction to this particular gentleman of Ren Water can be explained by looking at his chart. The master of the day of the knight Ren Water is sitting on Wu (horse), which contains the hidden stem of Ding fire. So, our Jia Wood Lady is attracted to this gentleman Ren Water because her chart contains elements that she likes, and also elements that attract her because these are elements that she already has in mind. At BaZi, we call this affinity.
Also, if you look at the chart of the Wood Lady Jia, you will notice that she is going through the Ren Yin (Water Tiger) Pillars of Luck. Ren Water has stood out and become obvious; therefore, the person she is attracted to has entered her life. At BaZi, we call this affinity. It explains why people are attracted to certain people, or why certain people at certain times in our lives, frequently cross our path, or for that matter never seem to cross our path.
Affinity is not always good. You can have an affinity with something that is negative. The affinity does not justify that something is good or bad, but it is simply a BaZi term to explain a connection, a synchronicity if you will.
I want the divorce…
Now, this relationship between Mrs. Jia Wood and Ren Water boy did not last. In fact, they got divorced. Why? First of all, these letters belong to people who are not the type to marry, in the sense that their personality and character make it difficult for them to have a lasting relationship.
Jia Wood’s lady is a strong Jia Wood, born in the station of Water, who is her Resource star. The star of her husband, who is Xin Metal, is not strong enough to control her. Therefore, the relationship is one where she is extremely headstrong and he is desperately trying to control her. She imagines a Swiss Army knife trying to cut down a California redwood—that’s her relationship. Also, Lady Jia Wood’s wife’s palace has a combined destruction relationship between the Yin (Tiger) and the Hai (Pig). This indicates that your relationships start well and then end or go to hell at the end.
But it takes two to tango as they say. Mr. Ren Water’s painting is also problematic from a relationship perspective. In his chart, his Ren Water Day Master is weak, since he was born in the month of Mao (Rabbit), which is the peak of Wood’s season. When wood is strong, water is weak. However, his spouse star, which is the element of Fire, is born in the season of Resources, as Wood feeds Fire. So in his graph, weak Ren Water is struggling to control strong fire, a bit like using saliva to put out a barbecue fire. Generally, in a compatibility analysis, the strength of the Day Masters of the two parties in question is considered. This is a good way to assess the ‘readiness’ of the parties for a relationship. Generally, the male should be strong enough to control the spouse star, while the female should not be too strong to counter the spouse star.
Also, Mr. Ren Water has two spouse elements, and one of those spouse elements is in a Fu Yin relationship with his current pillar. A Fu Yin indicates a sad event in the person’s life and, in the case of Mr. Ren Water, it relates to his relationship and thus to his divorce. In the case of Mr. Ren Water, his wife opted to divorce him by SMS and apparently has a prenuptial agreement to protect his multi-million dollar fortune. Who is Mr. Ren Water? He is none other than Kevin Federline and his wife Jia Wood is pop star Britney Spears.