Was there a time when you were rejected by a girl you really liked? Have you ever experienced being dumped by an ex girlfriend? Have you ever been ignored by a girl you have approached? Some people get over it easily, but others end up having a great fear of rejection. The fear of rejection can cause significant psychological problems, leaving the reject broken and distant from the people around them.
People who fear rejection tend to live a lonely life. They choose to be alone because they don’t want to go through the same traumatic experience of being rejected. Those who fear rejection also tend to become insecure about everything. This defensiveness protects them from the emotional damage and stress that any possible rejection could bring.
Here are things you need to know to beat your fear of rejection.
Lesson 1: There is nothing to fear but only fear
Why: Sometimes we are always afraid of almost anything you can imagine. Sometimes we fear failures and mistakes. All of this comes from one source, rejection.
What to do: If you’re afraid of doing things on your own or feel terrible when things don’t go your way, the first thing you should do is stop what you’re doing and relax. Once you are calm and emotionally stable, tell yourself that you are in control. If you are able to control your emotions, you can also easily control your mind. Once you have full control of both, then you can tell yourself that there is nothing to fear. Remember, this is all about self-control. Once you have learned to do this, you will no longer be afraid.
Lesson 2: Think about how you want to feel
Why: If you think you are a failure then you are right, think you will succeed then you will. Our minds are powerful. It can attract the type of energy that you are exerting. If you think about negative things, you will attract negative energy. If you think positively, you will definitely attract the good guys. You are what you think of yourself and you will be what you think you would be.
What to do: Practice thinking positively. Instead of saying, “I don’t want to fail,” just say, “I am successful.” Instead of saying, “I don’t want to be rejected,” just say, “I am accepted.”
You can overcome the fear of being rejected in simple ways. It’s just a matter of self-discipline and self-confidence. You need discipline to make sure you follow the rules and stick to them no matter what. You need self-confidence to ensure that you won’t lose confidence in yourself and stay strong even through times when you feel like you’re stuck on the same emotional roller coaster again. Remember that the fear of being rejected is a choice.