“If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your lifetime, you will be out of balance and negative. Know when to close the account.”
In our quest to find a loving and supportive relationship, we often forget about the other relationships in our lives and what they attract to us.
Now, by this I do not mean that when we meet a man all of our other previously important relationships take a back seat. That may happen, but that is a topic for another day and it is not my point in this case.
These are your relationships with your family, friends, colleagues, superiors, and others that come in and out of your life.
Years ago, a friend gave me a lovely little book called “How Full Is Your Bucket.” He talked about relationships being a two-way street, as it should be. You would give your time, your energy, support or help to people when necessary and theoretically you would be filling their bucket. They, in turn, would or should do the same for you when you need it. This is the general rule of thumb for how relationships / friendships should work in a perfect world.
However, we all have or have had people in our lives who seem to take from our bucket and not give in return. They exhaust us, fill us with their negativity and drama, and leave our bucket empty. Does it sound familiar to you?
To have a good balance in life, the giving and receiving of each bucket must be reciprocal. If you intend to live the best life possible, you must limit the people in your life who simply drain your bucket. It’s a bit like cleaning your closet. It’s a job you know you have to do, but you keep putting it off. However, the longer you leave it, the more difficult it will be to do. The more these people feel in their life, the more difficult it is to break that bond.
The reason I am referring to this topic is simple. If the non-romantic relationships in your life are out of order, how can you expect your romantic relationship to be in better shape? What you do with other relationships will reflect on your love life, whether you like it or not. Sorting out these relationships will get you into a great space to be open and positive and to attract a like-minded person into your life. Remember what we dwell on and what we focus on is what we unintentionally attract, so make sure your focus is tuned to the correct frequency.