Do you want to get back with your ex? If you’re the one asking for a break up, it might seem like you shouldn’t be the one asking for a reconciliation. I disagree. Whether or not you caused the breakup, you still need to do a few things to make things right. It’s much harder to ask your love to come back when you were the one who pushed them, but with these simple steps, you can:
1. Apologize.
Swallowing your pride takes effort, especially if you were so sure you don’t want the relationship anymore. People change their minds and also do things on the spur of the moment. Admitting to your loved one that you made a terrible mistake is a feat you must conquer in order to truly reconcile with someone you left. Write a long apology letter explaining your reasons for wanting him back. Make sure you don’t back down and start reminding him of the reason you broke up with him. Ranting at him again will make things worse.
Remind him of your story and the happiest moments you shared. Tell him you don’t want to let go of all that. If she cheated on you, tell her that you only acted that way because you can’t bear the thought of losing him to another girl. Explain to him that you want to reconnect with the man you love and who loves you back, and that the thought of losing him forever is tearing you apart.
2. Put yourself in their shoes.
This is often overlooked, but it’s important when you want to get back together with your ex. Take your mind off your own pain for a while and focus on what you must be feeling. If someone scolded you like you scolded your boyfriend, how would you feel? I’m not talking about advanced psychological tactics here, just simple day-to-day empathy. After doing this, think about how you would react if you were in their shoes.