What if I told you that you can get anyone to do you a favor every time? It is true. There are times in life when we could use some help. Life becomes so hectic that you feel like you can’t do everything on your own. If you follow these rules, you will have people helping you left and right. I must say that these are not tricks that you will learn tomorrow. At the same time, they are not difficult to learn. You just have to know how and when to use them. Now let’s get started.
“The Ben Franklin Effect”
Yes. That’s the real name. Theory suggests (from Ben Franklin, who put it to use throughout his life) if someone did you a favor, the mind of the person who did you the favor will justify why they did it, and will automatically think better of it as a result. in you. This has scientific evidence to back it up. Your mind tries to fill in the gaps with the small amount of information it has about the situation. In this case, studies show that the mind filled in the blanks with “the person likes you.”
What should you do? Start small and work your way up. You can’t ask someone to do something over the top just yet. They have to be convinced that they like and trust you. Start very small. “Hey, can you do me a favor and get me that pen?” kind of small. Then go up slowly. It will become second nature for them to help you.
time component
This is a simple concept that many people don’t do because they only ask for a favor in desperate times. What you want to do is ask for a favor in advance. The more time between the favor and the person, the better. Have you ever thought “I’m not going to worry about that paper. It’s two months away” or “Mom isn’t here until Wednesday. I have three days to do the dishes”? The reason you ignore it is that it has no importance in your life right now. It’s so far away that you don’t stress or worry about it. People tend to say no to favors because they can stress out their day. Have you ever tried to ask someone who is busy and/or running late if they can do you a favor? They will kindly reject it because it puts more stress on them. Ask ahead of time and you’ll be fine.
Obligation
You have to love humans. For one reason or another, we are forced to help someone who helped us at some point when we needed it. If possible, help that person in a way that reminds them that you helped them. Or do it as many times as they have embedded in their mind that you are a good and helpful person. It doesn’t have to be big. The thing to look for is how useful it would be to them. If he needs you to run an errand because he has homework to do, run the errand. You will do a good deed and embed the seed in his mind for future help.
mood
I would say this is one of the most important because the mood creates the aura of the situation. Don’t ask someone when they’re in a bad mood. They will just relate it to you and think you are selfish. They think you don’t care about them because you’re putting a burden on them. Instead, wait until he’s in a good mood. People in a good mood help more often. If they are in a bad mood, help them get in a good mood. This can have the same effect as doing someone a favor. However, don’t ask them then. You only want to ask when you meet them in a good mood. You don’t want any strings between you and the bad mood.
similarities
We prefer to help people we can relate to too. You feel closer to them and more obligated to help them. Over a period of time, talk about things that interest you both. Bring up a lot of topics and act like you have a deep passion for them. They will end up excited and may even offer to help.
be a leader
If you’re going to ask for a favor, then you have to lead by example. You’re going to have to do him/her or someone else a favor. It doesn’t have to be big. You don’t even have to do it so much as mention it in the person’s presence. For example, if you and your friends are having lunch, you could say, “Hey Jen, I heard you needed someone to help you pick out a dress for the dance on Saturday night. I can help if you’d like.” Just make sure the person hears you by asking Jen if she needs your help. People will see you lead by example and will want to follow you. Not only that, they will look and feel bad if you did all these favors for people and then ask them for one and they say no.
Ego
The ego is part of the psychological self. You don’t want to threaten the ego in any way. You want the person to be calm and with good self-esteem. So when you ask for the favor, don’t do it in an intimidating way or try to pressure anyone into doing it. That will not work. Make sure he isn’t jealous or envious of you either. Those traits also affect the ego. Make it look like you’re looking for them to help you.
Consistency
Keep asking. There is a way to do this without being annoying. You have to ask in short simple burst. No more than 30 seconds. You must also do it over a period of time. It’s annoying when you say “Please, please, please? Do I need your help? Please, please?” That will not work. Ask six times. They say that’s the magic number to make someone break down.
Now you know the ways to get someone to cooperate with you. I can honestly say this works. At first it didn’t work because I wasn’t completely following ALL the task. I would only do one, maybe two. But for the last few years after learning this, I received positive responses from all my friends. On a very basic level, you’re just trying to be the nice guy/girl who asks for a favor. It’s hard to turn down a good person. Good luck and let me know how it goes.