Men can be very confusing. If you two broke up and are still playing, it can be really hard on your heart. Not knowing what he wants when you are very clear about the fact that you want him back is heartbreaking. No one can expect you to wait forever while he decides what the future holds. You have the right to know what is going on before you completely break down emotionally. If you are hesitating to get back together or not, make the most of that. In fact, you can use his indecision to attract him to you.
If your ex boyfriend doesn’t know what he wants, don’t let him control your future. If you tell him that you will wait patiently until he makes up his mind, you are setting yourself up for deep emotional torture. The moment a man realizes that a woman wants him more than anything, he will make her wait. He will make it as long as possible just to test his devotion to him. It exploits a man’s ego if a woman chases him endlessly hoping that he will give her another chance. Don’t put yourself in this position with your ex. If you’ve already made the mistake of telling him that you will be his if he loves you, don’t say it again.
You have the right to have the future you want. You’re not going to get that with your ex waiting for it. You have to make him chase you and it’s actually relatively easy to make that happen. The best thing you can do for yourself right now is to leave your boyfriend altogether. You are sitting in a pattern of waiting until he acts and realizes that you are an amazing woman and the ideal partner for him. You have to step away from that equation for him to see and feel that it is not entirely and exclusively up to him to determine whether the two of you are back together.
The best advice you can take right now is to focus more on your own life and the things you enjoy that don’t include your ex. Instead of spending an entire night reading old emails, go out with your friends to a good restaurant. If you’ve been concentrating on him calling you, turn off the phone and go to the gym. These next few weeks should be about you and not about him.
Your ex boyfriend will soon realize what he wants if you are no longer waiting to take him back. The silent threat that you will disappear from his life is enough to make him see that a future without you is full of emptiness and loneliness. By simply walking away from his life for a few weeks, you will be accomplishing more than if you tried to talk to him all day, every single day.