Delight and charm the men in your life
Courtesans, many of whom disappeared without trace, were often highly educated women who specialized in exchanging artistic graces, high talk, and male-patterned sexual favors throughout history and around the world. Courtesans were present in Japan, China, and Italy, where the exchange took place through poetry, speech, and music; in pre-colonial India through magic, music, chemistry, politics, economics and other arts.
The following are seven feminine qualities courtesans cultivated in their arts for hundreds of years. Trained in the ways of feminine beauty, they were not only experts in charming, conversing and enchanting men, many courtesans discovered how to bring their lovers to the highest states of satisfaction and pleasure. Although many courtesans lived precarious lives and were often kept as secret lovers, any woman can learn much from these elusive women who dedicated their lives to appreciating the men in their lives.
seven charms
Moment
Consider everything you do with a man as an erotic foreplay. It can last an hour or days and weeks. It depends entirely on you, timing is the art of offering a gesture, your voice, a touch or whatever is needed at a given moment. Time means watching intently, looking for what someone likes, and then, at just the right moment, effortlessly saying or offering a gesture that brings beauty to the space. Timing is usually an invisible art, because when the thing that most needs to be said or done is given, the courtesan disappears and gives credit to someone else.
Beauty
Are we born with it or can we create it? The only thing that matters is that you find yours and trust it. Believe in your beauty. Be willing to be seen, and be happy when you are. Drink compliments like you’re sipping a fine wine. When you get even a hint of a compliment, smile sheepishly and let it rest. Your shyness can be irresistible.
Ingenuity
Humor and laughter are his greatest assets. Your humor dissolves their insecurities. Your intelligence, delivered with wit, will not feel competitive. Competing with men, in a direct or overly serious way, dampens their attraction to you. On the other hand, some men love intense and playful competition. Sometimes they love to be tested and they love to have powerful women around them. Your power and comments should uplift them in some genuine way. In other words, the key to using your wits in a shameless way means that you stretch your intelligence and use it to heighten your feelings about yourself. So with wit, a man is more open to being shown where and how he could be even better.
Benevolence
Kindly appreciate any man who compliments you. Her attraction is flattering, but that doesn’t mean you have to do anything but enjoy her. By listening with empathy, resist the temptation to fix or change your situation. Listen fully to where you are, and then offer a small ray of hope. A courtesan is a seductress, not a school teacher or a therapist. Men are very attracted to the courtly appearance of a woman, because she likes her just the way she is. She also lets him know that she believes in her ability to make it. She believes in him more than he believes in himself, this is benevolence.
happiness
Men love joy. Your frivolity, your joviality is very attractive. It is a delight for men. The lighter you are, the more space there is for others to relax around you. Lighten up like a butterfly landing on a branch. Become a carefree point of power, calmly attracting laughter and a calm breeze to follow you wherever you go. Your calm relieves the man of his own worries. The more intelligent and tolerant you are, the stronger and more confident he will feel. It’s even better if you make him feel like your sense of joy is coming from him.
Funny
Grace is elegance in your movements. It also shows in the way you speak tenderly and politely in everything you do. Allowing your graceful movements to be seen and enjoyed, grace is obtained through your eyes in the way you look at it. Your smile accepts it for what it is. Your grace melts their insecurities, warms their feelings, calms their mind, and awakens their desire to respectfully enjoy your gifts.
Charm
Even if you never choose to have sex of any kind with a particular man, convey through your gestures that you might. Signal your interest while allowing the mystery of the outcome to remain open. Charm means keeping the possibility of foreplay in the air, so clearly conveying the moment is completely up to you. He will respect you for this and he really likes the playful tension of the dance. Your openness draws him in and challenges him to remain in your good graces. He will want to be respectful, not because you outwardly tell him what he has to do; rather it is his choice to be courteous. Instead of frustrating a man, he tempers his enthusiasm allowing the chances of connecting with you to remain possible. Consider his sexual interest as natural and good. Inspire him to offer you delicacies and show him your sincere pleasure; thank him when he does.
The key
acquiring the charms of a courtesan is through sincerity and generosity. Regardless of her age or her appearance, she can share these qualities and charms not only to delight the men in her life, but also to cultivate her soft and enduring feminine nature. The best part is that the more you give freely, the more beautiful you feel and therefore the more beautiful you will become. Just as a flower effortlessly offers its petals to the sun without expecting anything in return, any woman can give tenderly whenever she wants. Like throwing a stone into a pond, she watches the vast ripples, the effects of your giving, reaching out and touching others with beauty.